Hills Speak: January 2014

A few days back, my sister's bakeshop 5-month pregnant assistant was rushed to the hospital because of spotting. She had been complaining of her 50ish live-in partner who has a legal wife. She did not last one day in the hospital because of her inability to pay. Sister's assistant just was pregnant when she turned 18 just recently. Does rape ring a bell? Sister's assistant earns 2500 a month on her own. Live-in partner has a decent earning job but gives assistant 50 pesos occasionally. Live-in partner shoved her away to go back to parents, which assistant did just yesterday.

In my mind, how many times does this have to happen? I have heard of three similar stories of acquaintances all in two months' time. We are not Yemen at the boundaries of Saudi Arabia where female illegal immigrants have to get raped and tortured over and over for a few riyals. We are the Philippines where people are expected to know how to fight something like abusive live-in partner. Yet, the reality in the Philippines, where the instance of single motherhood increases exponentially every year, is that most women (and soon to be women) are ignorant of laws such as Violence Against Women and Children Act (RA 9262) and scared to fight.

Violence against women is not just physical. It's also PSYCHOLOGICAL, EMOTIONAL and FINANCIAL.

What is VAWC?

There is a strengthening campaign of anti-VAWC, but I think not strong enough. It will be stronger if there were continuous efforts to inform the public.

RA 9262 is the Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004. It seeks to address the prevalence of violence against women and children (VAWC), abuses on women and their children by their partners like:

Husband or ex-husband
Live-in partner or ex-live in partner
Boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend
Dating partner or ex-dating partner

The Act classifies violence against women and children (VAWC) as a public crime.

What is VAWC under the law?

It refers to “any act or a series of acts committed by any person against a woman who is his wife, former wife, or against a woman with whom the person has or had a sexual or dating relationship, or with whom he has a common child, or against her child whether legitimate or illegitimate, within or without the family abode, which result in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty.

It includes, but is not limited to, the following acts:

Physical violence refers to acts that include bodily or physical harm;

Sexual violence refers to an act which is sexual in nature, committed against a woman or her child. It includes but is not limited to:

Rape, sexual harassment, acts of lasciviousness, treating a woman or her child as a sex object, making demeaning and sexually suggestive remarks, physically attacking the sexual parts of the victim’s body, forcing her/him to watch obscene publications and indecent shows or forcing the woman or her child to do indecent acts and/or make films thereof, forcing the wife and mistress/lover to live in the conjugal home or sleep together in the same room with the abuser;
Acts, causing or attempting to cause the victim to engage in any sexual activity by force, threat of force, physical or other harm or threat of physical or other harm or coercion;
Prostituting the woman or her child.

Psychological violence refers to acts or omissions causing or likely to cause mental or emotional suffering of the victim such as but not limited to intimidation, harassment, stalking, damage to property, public ridicule or humiliation, repeated verbal abuse and marital infidelity. It includes causing or allowing the victim to witness the physical, sexual or psychological abuse of a member of the family to which the victim belongs, or to witness pornography in any form or to witness abusive injury to pets or to unlawful or unwanted deprivation of the right to custody and/or visitation of common children.

Economic abuse refers to acts that make or attempt to make a woman financially dependent. This includes but is not limited to the following:

Withdrawal of financial support or preventing the victim from engaging in any legitimate profession, occupation, business or activity, except in cases wherein the other spouse/partner objects on valid, serious and moral grounds as defined in Article 73 of the Family Code;
Deprivation or threat of deprivation of financial resources and the right to the use and enjoyment of the conjugal, community or property owned in common;
Destroying household property;
Controlling the victim’s own money or properties or solely controlling the conjugal money or properties.

Children are those below 18 years of age or those, regardless of age, who are incapable of taking care of themselves (as stated in Republic Act 7610). It includes the biological children of the victim and other children under her care. A dating relationship is one which has a romantic involvement. It means that a relationship existed between a woman and a partner who is abusive or has previously a bused her, whether or not the relationship was formal.

Sexual relations refer to a single sexual act which mayor may not result to a bearing of a child.

Who gets protected under the law?

The law recognizes the unequal relations of a man and a woman in an abusive relationship where it is usually the woman who is disadvantaged. Thus, the law protects the woman and her children.
The victim, the child who is a minor (legitimate and illegitimate), and a person aged 18 years and beyond who doesn’t have the ability to decide for herself/himself because of an emotional, physical and mental illness can make full use of the law.
Any child under the care of a woman is also protected under the law.

Is VAWC committed by men alone?

Women can also be liable under the law. These are the lesbian partners/girlfriends or former partners of the victim with whom she has or had a sexual or dating relationship. (Source: Barangay Protection Order RA 9262: A Primer. Department of Interior and Local Government, National Barangay Operations Office, 2004.)

What if the female victim commits violence against her partner?

The law acknowledges that women who have retaliated against their partners or who commit violence as a form of self-defense may have suffered from battered women syndrome (BWS).

BWS is a “scientifically defined pattern of psychological and behavioral symptoms found in women living in battering relationships as a result of cumulative abuse.” (Source: Salient Features: A Guide to Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children [RA 9262]. Philippine Information Agency and National Commission on the Role of Filipino Women, 2004. )

Any victim who suffers from BWS should be diagnosed by a psychiatric expert or a clinical psychologist. This will also help the victim in obtaining a just decision in her case.

What if the male spouse/partner complains about abuses committed by his wife/partner?

He may file a complaint or case under the Revised Penal Code.

What are the penalties for committing VAWC?

If the courts have proven that the offender is guilty of the crime, he may be imprisoned and will be obliged to pay P100,000 to P300, 000 in damages. The length of imprisonment depends on the gravity of the crime.

What can women and children do under the law?

The law allows women and their children to secure barangay protection order and/or temporary or permanent protection order from the courts.

They can also file an independent civil action for damages and criminal action for the violation of anti-VAWC Act.

What is a protection order?

It is an order prescribed in the Anti-VAWC Act to prevent further abuse of or violence against a woman and her child. It also provides them relief from said abuse or violence.

Who may file the protection order?

Anyone of the following may also file the protection order in behalf of the victim/s:

Parent or guardian
Grandparents
Children and grandchildren
Relatives (aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws)
Local officials and DSWD social workers
Police
Lawyers
Counselors
Therapists
Health care providers (nurses, doctors, barangay health workers)
Any two people who came from the city or municipality where VAWC happened and who have personal knowledge of the crime.

Don’t be afraid to seek help

Counseling and Referral Services

Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD)
Crisis Intervention Unit (CIU)
Rehabilitation Unit Tel No.: (02) 7348635

Social Protection Unit Tel No.: (02) 9319133, 9322573

KALAKASAN
Telefax: (02) 7355555
email: kalakasan@gmail.com

Medical and Health Services

Women’s Crisis Center
Women and Children Crisis Care & Protection Unit – East Avenue Medical CEnter (WCCCPU-EAMC)
Tel Nos.: (02) 9267744, 9225235

Philippine General Hospital (PGH)
Women’s Desk
Tel Nos.: (02) 5242990, 5218450 loc 3072, 3816

Legal Assistance

Public Attorney’s Office
Tel Nos.: (02) 9299010, 9299436 to 37
Fax Nos.: (02) 9276810, 9262878

Law Enforcement Agencies

Philippine National Police (PNP)
Women and Children’s Concern Division (WCCD)
Tel No.: (02) 7230401 loc 3480
Call or text 117 (PATROL 117)

National Bureau of Investigation (NBI)
Violence Against Women and Children’s Division (VAWCD)
Tel Nos.: (02) 5238231 loc 3403, 5256028

Source: NCRFW Brief on Republic Act 9262

Source: http://captainbarangay.wordpress.com/laws/anti-violence-against-women-and-their-children-act-ra-9262/

I will post related cases. Please help stop violence against women and children in our homes first, then in society next.

I have been waiting for what I can call 'my year.' The last 3 years have been the most trying and most destitute of my life. It was a phase of major changes in my life such as closing a business I nurtured for three years, raising a family and bearing a second son, and quitting a job I loved and entirely changing my career field from Education to Human Resources. With all these come challenges in my financial, emotional, social and even psychological spectrum.

As I assessed my life and my performance, I think I sucked big time. And yet, I am happy that the challenges came at this point of my life as I have made major realizations as well. They are basic ones, things like planning and sticking with your plans, thoroughly thinking and rethinking before making any decisions, making investments and saving what little you earn (as I was not born with a platinum spoon in my mouth.) I have realized that (actually I heard this from the radio) that there are four stages in a (wo)man's life based on Maslow's Hierarchy of needs--(1) the stage of a problem existing and being ignorant about it, (2) the stage of realizing that a problem exists but you not knowing about it, (3) the stage of realization that a problem exists and that you can act on it; (4) and lastly, the stage when one is is successful solving a problem. With my major problems in life, I am personally still at stage 3 when I am still trying to learn about solutions to life's many challenges.

As a mother, wife, daughter, and leader, I have failed many times, but as the phoenix I believe myself to be, I rise and try again, and realize the power and strength I have within. And when I focus my mind and my heart on what I do, there is no one more proud but myself, and this results to an even higher respect for myself and my esteem. I have realized my worth maintaining my foothold on the ground, that enough of tolerance for abuse, that like many successful people I, too, can be successful.

2014 proves to be promising, and I--without giving myself away too much--am very excited that it is finally the Year of the Horse--as tattooed on my shoulder to be symbolic of my grace and power. Write ups say that this year would reward people with 'relief' and 'recompense' for hard work--which I have been doing for the last three years! And so the last three years go to my experience bank.

My new year's resolution is to work just as hard, to plan well and to stick with my plans. Kindly add to lose 10 lbs. ;)

To the people I offended, your cunning probably deserves it. To the people who declared they love me this year, I love you, too. You deserve my love and respect, too. You know who you are. To the people I do not wish to talk to anymore, I do not wish anything for you. Life will take its toll on your useless existence.

Happy New Year, everyone!

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